Girl being bullied

If you haven’t already, click here to read Part 1 of my experience concerning the Anti-bullying Ambassador training. This was valuable in helping to combat this issue affecting many people.


The definition of bullying as given by the Anti-Bullying Alliance is, “The repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online”.

It can also be phrased as, “Repeated negative behaviour that is intended to make others feel upset, uncomfortable or unsafe.”


It’s easy to remember the three main types of bullying by using the acronym VIP:

V- Verbal bullying is when someone or a group of people uses verbal insults or threats to upset or oppress their victim.

I- Indirect bullying is when someone or a group of people spreads rumours or says bad things about someone behind their back (this can include cyber bullying).

P– Physical bullying is when someone or a group uses physical contact (punching, kicking, pushing) to harm someone.

If someone confides in you

So now, we engaged in some real, deep training that is essential to being an ambassador; this part of the training was what to say if you are confided in.

1. You must first clarify that it is your responsibility to take action: tell them,”You can talk to me, but I have to report if you are in any danger. It’s my responsibility to keep you safe,”. You cannot promise to keep it a secret because you must report bullying. If you do, and you break their trust, it will be extremely hard to gain it back.

2. You must then thank them for confiding in you. Say to them, “In your own time, talk to me,”.

3. You now encourage them to seek help from people like teachers and parents; give them the power of confidence back.

Bystanders and Upstanders

A bystander is someone who sees or knows about bullying and doesn’t do anything about it.

An upstander is someone who sees bullying and immediately intervenes to help the victim. They say “no” to bullying.

Bear in mind that bystanders are not always bad people; there are many reasons to not upstand, like being friends with the bully or simply being scared to be bullied their self.

There are many ways to become an upstander: help the victim by befriending them and saying nice things; put an end to different rumours about them; stay aware of the bullies in your school and report them immediately if they do or say something to upset others.


Some of the Princess Diana quotes include:

“Anywhere I see suffering, that is where I want to be, doing what I can.” -Princess Diana.

“Everyone needs to be valued. Everyone has the potential to give something back.” – Princess Diana.