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LDRs Explained

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31 March 2014

By Lauren H

In the 21st Century, long distance relationships are becoming more and more common, with technological advances, such as Skype, making them easier. However, they can still be quite a struggle. So, here’s some tips to help get through it:

Communication is key. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, whilst being apart, it is vital that you keep in contact regularly. This could be a phone call, a text, a Skype call or even a letter. As you can’t see each other face to face, it is important to keep each other updated with every day things, and make sure that you are emotionally there for each other too.

Visit each other at every opportunity. As you are in a long distance relationship, it is obvious that you are going to find it difficult to see each other, but despite this, there are ways to make it easier. Instead of going the whole distance, you could meet half way. This could be for a day if you live close, or you could spend a few days in a hotel together if the distance is further. Although, try discussing traveling the whole distance in order to visit each others’ home towns. By doing so, you will experience what life is like from their perspective, and eventually you will feel closer to them, as you will learn a lot from the visit.

Just like any other relationship, you will face many problems if you can’t trust each other. It’s normal to have doubts, especially being far away from your partner, but remember that you are both in the same situation. So, if you can both trust each other, then you will get along much better.

Make time for yourself. In a long distance relationship, you can often spend so much time questioning when they are next going to call or wishing you were with them, instead of sitting at home alone. Well, instead of getting yourself down about a situation that you can’t change, use the time to your advantage and find yourself. You could take up a new hobby, read a book you’ve been curious about for months, or do anything else that makes you happy.

Do things together. Now, this may sound like a bit of a silly one, as you obviously can’t do activities together in person, but you can through the power of the Internet. You could play multiplayer games online and have fun competing with each other, or watch a TV programme at the same time – anything you like, as long as it makes you feel closer to one another.

Talk about the future. If you’re putting in the effort to get through a LDR, then it is more than likely that you want to be together in the long run. So, discuss where you see your relationship in the upcoming years. Talk about making compromises, and decide how you will manage to achieve your goals, whether that means one or both of you moving to be together.

Always remember to be positive. Yes, you may not have the most ideal situation, but if you’re both willing to give it a go, then it will be worth it in the end. Just keep reminding yourself of the good things that will blossom from your time apart, and look forward to seeing your partner again.

Good luck!

 

Lauren Hodgson

 

 

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