We all have those nights when you go to bed and things just don’t seem right inside. It doesn’t matter what song you put on, none of them are right. It doesn’t matter who you think about texting – nobody is the right person to listen. So you’re at a loss. Do you really know what to do when you’re sad? I doubt it, seeing as nobody ever truly does.
However, we can all share our own little tips and tricks to help each other move through sadness a little easier. Whether you’re sad just for a short while, or a little longer, here are our tips on what to do when you’re sad.
1. Feel the sadness first
The worst thing you can do when you’re sad is to push it away too quickly. That way, you’re never going to be genuinely happy.
Sadness always demands to be felt, so don’t ignore it and hope it’ll just go away. Feel the sadness, ask yourself why it’s there and then have a think about everything that’s going on.
Feelings are important – so feel them.
2. Write it down
Whether you write a letter to the person you’re sad about, or write a diary entry to yourself, just writing things down can make you feel so much better.
Writing helps you process your thoughts and register them as genuine. You formulate them into genuine sentences and transfer your feelings – which can seem so overwhelming – into words on a page.
Also, writing your sadness down is great to move it all from your head. By spilling your feelings out onto a page (even if you can’t make sense of your feelings, just saying you can’t make sense of them helps), you can do wonders for your sadness.
3. Talk to your most trusted friend
There is nobody like your most trusted friend. They are always there to listen, which is why you’re friends with them in the first place.
Explaining why you’re sad to someone when you’re feeling it the most is one of the most effective ways to rationalise your feelings. Your most trusted friend can give you some good, solid advice on the situation and perspective you otherwise would not have had.
Trusted friends are like gold dust in situations like these.
If you’re struggling with things at the moment and you feel like there isn’t anyone to listen, you’re not alone.
Get in touch with some of the people below for a confidential and helpful chat about your feelings:
— ChildLine (under 18s): 0800 1111
— Samaritans: 116 123