One thing we repeatedly talk about here at b**p is how important it is to be there for others, especially during difficult times. However, sometimes the struggles others face are not immediately obvious. That’s why it’s important to check up on your friends and to make sure that they’re ok.
When we say ‘check up’ on your friends, we don’t mean it in a weird way. You don’t need to spy on them, just check up by asking them if they’re ok. There are sometimes subtle but obvious signs that a friend is not fine. They might post, like or retweet/share things about being sad, depressed and stuck in a rut with life. If your friend repeatedly shares or likes these things, it might be a good idea to ask them how they are.
Another way you can tell if a friend is in need of your shoulder to cry on is by looking at the changes in their life. Has something dramatic happened within their family? Or, have they changed? Lots of people experience weight changes when they’re going through stuff, so if a friend has noticeably lost or gained weight for no specific reason, it could be a sign that there’s something going on there and that you should check up on them. You don’t need to mention the weight change either, by the way – just ask if they’re ok as they don’t seem themselves at the moment.
Our friends all need us from time to time, and it’s important that we try our best to be there for them. This includes friends who we haven’t spoken to in a while – their small cries for help need to be answered, and you can do that even if it’s been a while since you spoke. Caring for your friends (new or old) is not a crime, and every friend will always be grateful to someone who shows that they have their best interests at heart.