When it comes to society, there are a whole load of stereotypes which prevent individuals from believing they can do certain things. Though the many obvious stereotypes about women staying at home in the kitchen and being baby-making machines have faded considerably, there are some underlying stereotypes that are still detrimental to our functioning as equal beings. As a woman, putting yourself first is not something expected of us, nor something we generally approve of when it’s done.

Women today are still expected to be caregivers, even if they work full-time, study full-time or have other things going on in their lives. There is a great pressure on modern women today to have high-paced careers and still be ‘in control’ of all household affairs. Women who work full-time, 9-5 for five days a week are still expected to have cleaned the house, do all the dishes every day, the cooking and the washing and ironing. More men are taking on such household jobs, but women are still, in many households, expected to just get on with it. This leads to many working mothers feeling like they’re burning the candle at both ends, and they feel like they’re always disappointing someone.

But this is absolute nonsense. Women, putting yourself first is not selfish. It’s hard, especially if you’re a wife and a mother, but it’s important. You cannot be expected to do absolutely everything. Women are amazing, but they don’t have superpowers – no matter how much it might seem that we do.

When it comes to putting yourself first, women need to do it more often. We’re always running around after partners, friends and children trying to make things work. Why is it that making something work, though, always falls down to a woman? We’re not the only capable beings on Earth, as many men like to remind feminists.