Friendships of Convenience

6 November 2019

By Lauren E. White

It is estimated that we meet around 80,000-100,000 people in our lifetime. Of these people, some become our closest friends, some become enemies and some fall into a strange category: friendships of convenience.

Most people experience friendships of convenience at work, where it is, generally speaking, convenient to be on good terms with everyone. It makes the working day pass quicker, and it keeps any and all drama at bay. This kind of friendship is accepted by pretty much everyone. They aren’t totally fake, but they do sort of exist without any genuine, deep feeling for the other person involved.

The other kind of friendships of convenience is a much more painful experience. Most of the time, you don’t even realise it is a friendship of convenience until suddenly, you’re left wondering whether you were even friends at all.


This friendship isn’t real and probably has never been. One person in the friendship suddenly drops the other, despite the past and what has been done to help one another along the way. Suddenly, you can see all of the red flags you ignored at the beginning come back to the forefront of your mind. It’s not your fault – and it never has been – but it doesn’t help to see that you could have avoided all the pain later on.

Friendships of convenience are fine when the lines between life and friendship don’t get blurred. When they do, someone always gets used and hurt in the end after someone turns out to be totally different to who you thought they were.

So, let this be a caution to all: keep your friendships of convenience simply for that: convenience. Never blur the lines.

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